If only life were a smooth sailing boat where worries and problems did not exist, we would all be perfect individuals living in a utopia. In reality, we’re often faced with harsher truths and tricky situations.
Once stigmatised, mental health has been gaining traction over the past couple of years, and by taking things too personally, it could lead to additional stress and hurt our self-esteem. You might encounter situations when people disrespect you or when others treat you poorly for no apparent reason. In this context, you might take their attitude or action against you personally and start blaming yourself inadvertently.
However, in most cases, how people treat or make judgements about others rarely reflect a problem with you. Instead, it mostly goes to shows their characters instead of yours. Perhaps they have an unhealthy desire to control every situation or everyone. A trick to mitigate this would be to understand your weaknesses. To be self-aware of things that could trigger you. This should prepare yourself in confrontational situations or when somebody mentions it.
Stop worrying too much about what others think. Of course, everybody wants to be loved or liked by others. If you were to depend on the approval of others for self-validation, you are handing over the controls of your internal sense of self to them. This might be detrimental to your mental health in the long run.
It’s easy to react with the same level of negativity and toxicity when somebody mistreats you. We all have our bad days or encounters, but it’s essential to learn how to live and forgive.
You can’t control what others say or do, but you can choose how you react.
The faster you get to that, the quicker you make space for more joy and happiness in your life.